Extra Nate: AITA for disowning my daughter

I (F67) have recently had to disown my oldest daughter (F40) because she is a hateful, hurtful child. I raised her and her three siblings all by myself while they grew up. I kept them clothed and fed and sheltered. Yet when she looks back at her childhood she doesn’t think of the time I was able to get her to ride an elephant after the guy was done accepting rides and ready to pack up and split down. She doesn’t look back at all the dancing and fun she had with her adoptive aunts (we’re all really close) or that I didn’t send her to an awful catholic school (like what my mom did). No it’s all this “oh I was abused” load of shit. You weren’t abused you were disciplined. I had to run a tight ship in my house and sometimes that meant using the belt. That’s the cost of motherhood. You work and you toil and you raise your kids by working your finger to the bone while your husband is out “making a living” and “being the man of the house” or whatever horseshit and then all they remember is the time you “beat” them. My stupid daughter just told the New York Times a bunch of personal stuff and they called me a tap dancing childabuser. This is why all her relationships always turn to shit. She’s a hateful, spiteful child. My husband thinks I might be the AH. He didn’t tell me, becuase he knows I’d fucking let him have the business. But he says it in the way he acts. My friends say I should go talk to her about this. Make her understand where I’m coming from. But I’m not going to do that. She can fucking rot for all I care. So AITA?

Edit: I see a lot of yanks on here saying that I was abusive and they read the NYT article. To those of you who read that and believe it as all truth I say this: you don’t know me. You can never know me. I don’t even know myself so you can’t pass judgement on me. You’ll be blocked and your DMs will go unread.

Edit Edit: My daughter is cancelling her wedding plans because she “never learned to love.” Guilt tripping. That’s good, she deserves guilt. But I don’t want her to cancel her wedding. Now I look like the bad guy because of her “woe is me” story.

Edit Edit Edit: My friends have convinced me to send the Divine Secrets to my daughter. No I’m not telling you what that is. It better not make it to the NYT though, that shit is persona.l.

Edit Edit Edit: I am NOT the asshole here. You are wrong

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Consensus: ~99% say YTA. The other 0.0001% is Rebecca Wells.